A big point of contention in the argument over Daniel Tosh’s rape jokes has been how to take his suggestion that it’d be funny if a group of guys in his audience raped the woman who’d just called him out for making rape jokes during his set. A lot of folks, myself included, said that statement opened up the woman to harassment and possible assault, while Tosh’s defenders mostly denied that made any sense. Comedy is comedy, they said, and bad acts are bad acts, and you can’t mix up the two.
But now there’s this.
As my friend Kevin pointed out this morning, Tosh did a bit on his Comedy Central show just three months ago in which he encouraged his male viewers to videotape themselves “sneaking up behind women” and “lightly touching” their belly fat. And a bunch of them did, sending the clips into him and posting them on YouTube.
Now, the whole point of this is that it’s non-consensual, invasive, and public. And though some of the women in the clips appear to be in on the gag, others are clearly pissed off. In several cases the women seem to be strangers to the guys doing the touching, and in one — hosted on the Comedy Central website, complete with a revenue-generating ad — a high school student is shown touching his teacher. (That clip, like many others, cuts out before we’re able to see the victim’s reaction.)
What this confirms is that the whole Tosh thing isn’t about jokes. Tosh isn’t just a guy who tells stories on stage. He’s a guy whose comedy includes actually physically assaulting women, and directing his fans to do the same. And this is the guy who, after a woman challenged his rape jokes, mused aloud about how funny it would be if she “got raped by like, five” of those same fans, right then and there.
“Right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys just raped her?”
Damn.
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July 12, 2012 at 12:39 pm
Josiphine Rose
Daniel Tosh,
I am so sorry that you are so insecure that you have to joke about raping women to feel self confident. Please leave the comedy scene you are not funny.
For the person who posted this
THANK YOU!
July 12, 2012 at 12:45 pm
Marty
Where was the outrage when he encouraged men to punch each other in the balls?? Was that overlooked because of a “boys will be boys” mentality?? He regularly encourages viewers to play physical pranks on their friends, including both genders. Why the outrage now, after 3 YEARS of this behavior?? Assault is assault, and the fact that now because it’s about women, it gets attention – men are victims too, and often don’t speak up because of the expectation that they have to remain tough and unemotional.
And don’t tell me “believe it or not, it’s actually ok for women NOT to worries about the poor menz all the time” because if that’s the case, then the reverse is true also.
Tosh has been doing this for ages to everyone and now there suddenly is an outrage?
I would compare this to South Park, the show takes a piss out of everyone. Or even YouTube as a whole, which is basically what the show is about. But I don’t find it offensive or abusive since it takes the piss out of everyone. Sometimes in less tasteful ways than others, but overall it isn’t too bad.
Look at any individual south park episode and you might freak out over how bad taste it is (eric cartman’s hate of gingers for example…), then look at it as a whole and suddenly it doesn’t seem so bad because it is all for fun.
Would this be sexist and horrific if he only encouraged guys to do shit like this towards girls? Sure. Is it that bad if put into perspective with all the other things he has done and suggested? Not really. That’s why it’s on the comedy channel, and not the crime channel.
This particular case is no better or worse than a lot of stuff he’s done, and unless a crime is committed as a result, then he hasn’t done anything wrong except make a lot of people laugh (and a small few mad, which I believe is also one of the effects he’s after).
July 12, 2012 at 12:53 pm
Angus Johnston
Marty, going up to a stranger and putting your hand on their belly IS a crime.
July 12, 2012 at 12:54 pm
Andrew Levine
Marty, is that the best defense of Tosh that can be mustered? That he thinks assaulting men is inherently funny, too?
July 12, 2012 at 12:55 pm
JohnVen
lol @ lightly touching belly fat= sexual asault
July 12, 2012 at 12:58 pm
Angus Johnston
Yeah, John, I’m sure you’d find it a laugh riot if some guy with a video camera came up to you in public and groped your dick. That’s comedy, right?
July 12, 2012 at 1:04 pm
Marty
I’m not defending him, just wondering why the crying starts when his jokes are on women, and not men. Why don’t people complain about his racist humour? FYI, if a person feels like a crime has been committed against them, there are legal avenues they can take, just as much against the offender as the person that encouraged the offender. So let me know when those charges are laid, and then I’ll consider this a serious issue.
July 12, 2012 at 1:06 pm
JohnVen
To be fair, I’m pretty jaded when it comes to that sort of thing. I probably would react with slight shock, and then shrug it off. But don’t think I expect that response from everybody, women especially. Anyone has a right to get angry if they are oddly touched without permission. I just feel like it’s over dramatization comparing these pranks to sexual assault (you don’t pee or lactate out of your belly). Now I’m going off of what you stated in this article that these guys were “lightly touching”. If everyone were super-groping, I would be more than understanding at the outrage.
July 12, 2012 at 1:09 pm
Gustav
Marty, you tell me why there wasn’t outrage about him telling men to punch each other in the balls. I don’t know. I certainly don’t want to be punched in the balls, and would press charges against any man or woman that did that to me. If you want to raise an issue out of it, then go ahead.
Do you think that excuses him from telling a woman it’d be funny if five guys raped her? That’s quite the misogynistic attitude there. “I don’t mind violence against men, so nobody else should mind violence against women.”
I think this woman did the wrong thing in interrupting his act – she should have just left. But that doesn’t excuse his behaviour. He could have handled it better, like simply said “there’s the door, use it” and gone on with his act.
July 12, 2012 at 1:13 pm
Sam
Thanks for promoting Daniel Tosh. Because he upsets feminists like yourself, I will watch him more often. “Any publicity is good publicity.”
July 12, 2012 at 1:16 pm
Marty
Once again, I’m not defending him, I’m making another point entirely. His comedy club outburst was shamefully, and he rightfully apologised for it, as far as I’m aware. That doesn’t excuse it, not at all, but it demonstrates an acknowledgement that something needed to be apologised for.
July 12, 2012 at 1:17 pm
Angus Johnston
John, I didn’t call it sexual assault, I called it assault. And I didn’t link to the vids for obvious reasons, but they’re not hard to find.
Speaking only for myself, as a guy with a bit of a gut, if I were sitting out in public somewhere and some douchebag came up from behind me and put stroked my belly, then ran away giggling while his friend videotaped the whole thing? I don’t think I’d shrug it off. And I’m male, 6’3″, and burly.
July 12, 2012 at 1:18 pm
Marty
And furthermore, I agree with Sam – there is a strong whiff of militant feminism behind this entire outcry. It is a loud outcry, but it seems to be coming from a minority of butthurt women (and their pining male underlings) that think their rights are more important than everyone else’s.
July 12, 2012 at 1:19 pm
Michael
People do complain about his racism, and his homophobia, Marty.
Men are victims of abuse too, sure, but if you want to pretend that there isn’t a difference between the level and degree of sexual/sexualized assault toward men and toward women, don’t act all surprised and shocked when people don’t want to pretend along with you.
One question you ought to ask when you say the misanthropic stuff that Tosh does is “just for fun” is “fun for whom”? Is it fun for women who have lived through or live in fear of sexual assault to hear some bro-dude say that their fear and pain is a source of amusement? Is it fun for gay people who still get assaulted? Why should his cheap uninspired “humor” be free of criticism from people who actually have to deal with being marginalized and victimized by people that have been trained that racism or sexism or homophobia is OMG LOLZ!
see also: http://www.progressiveboink.com/2012/6/25/3112973/meet-guy-on-the-internet-champion-of-the-dullards
July 12, 2012 at 1:23 pm
Marty
Angus… what would you do exactly? I’m detecting a hint of intimidation from you, with the suggestion of your size. Are you saying that you would attack someone that did this to you? For touching you, you’re going to physically harm them? I have read a lot of your work the past year, since you first started writing about Occupy, and have had a degree of respect for you, up until now. Big men that use intimidation to get their way are pretty different from a suggestion to just touch someone’s fat. Big men that think with intimidation, IMO, as you just did, don’t often fare too well at thinking of peaceful alternatives.
July 12, 2012 at 1:25 pm
Michael
I also love that internet dudes are calling women “militant” or “sensitive” towards RAPE, when those same dudes are so totally sensitive and “butthurt” about defending a hack comedian that is the 2012 version of Andrew Dice Clay.
July 12, 2012 at 1:26 pm
FAR
He’s also shown the rape of a teen boy on his Tv show, Tosh.0 The youtube video he’s shown was taken down last night after we reported it, but here’s a write up on what’s in it. *Trigger Warning* http://feminist-armchair-regime.blogspot.com/2012/07/shows-rape-of-teen-boy-that-tosh-showed.html
But obviously this is a man that not only makes rape jokes, but condones and even encourages assault.
July 12, 2012 at 1:28 pm
Frieda
Interesting to see people actually defending him. I assume you think rape jokes are hilarious?
July 12, 2012 at 1:29 pm
Rose
I’m sorry but I’m not a militant feminist, I just find it completely it poor taste to encourage 5 men to rape a woman. Quite frankly there is nothing funny about rape ever.
July 12, 2012 at 1:30 pm
Angus Johnston
Wow, Marty. Tosh tells people to assault women, and you’re all about seeing his side. I mention my height and build, and you see it as a threat to two purely hypothetical douchebags?
For the record, I mentioned my stature only to make it clear that I, unlike the victims of Tosh’s acolytes’ pranks, don’t have much reason to fear physical violence from some jerk who puts his hand on my belly. (I’m not at all a fighter, but I’m physically imposing enough that I’ve broken up more than one fight just by looming.)
To sneak up on a stranger and wrap your arm around them and put your hand on their stomach is a creepily invasive act. It’s not just generic touching. It’s not benign. That was my only point.
July 12, 2012 at 1:31 pm
Marty
As I have pointed out, I’m not defending him. I’m using a little thing called perspective. Try some. As a member of one of these “marginalised groups” myself, I’ve been able to see that he is, in fact, an equal-opportunity jokester – all marginalised groups are offended equally. And seriously, why would you watch a comedy show or go to a comedy club if you’re going to be easily offended? WHY?
July 12, 2012 at 1:33 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Yeah, but that quote may not have been what was said at all. There are conflicting accounts as to what happened. Everybody is taking this blogger’s story as verbatim, when in actuality, it is hearsay. The blogger was not in attendance that night. She opens it with, “this story was relayed to me…” As a comic myself, I can tell you that hecklers are notoriously revisionist after incidents such as this one, and will edit it so as to make themselves seem like the victim, when in actuality, they are the ones who interrupted a performance. We should reserve judgment until we either a) see video of the incident or b) hear what Tosh has to say about what happened.
I’m not a fan of Daniel Tosh, but there’s a reason comics are circling the wagons around him. It’s because hecklers are self-aggrandizing histrionics and will do anything to get five minutes of attention. This is why we slam them. If you side with one, especially without getting the whole story, it’s the equivalent of crossing a picket line. You just don’t do it.
This article actually brings up something interesting in regards to prank humor. When do pranks cross the line? I have been victim of a few pranks that could have been construed as sexual assault/harassment. I laughed it off, but I do think there is a line. It’s up to the individual pranked to decide. However, I think that drawing a correlation between touching a person’s belly fat and rape culture is a long reach. Pranks, by their nature, require unwilling or unknowing participation and are designed for a laugh at another person’s expense. Are ALL pranks therefore permissive of rape culture? Spitballs, wet willies, purple nurples… are all these things that kids do secret rapes? If so, I must’ve been raped like 5,000 times.
July 12, 2012 at 1:35 pm
Marty
Angus, that’s because someone putting their hand on your belly isn’t violence. The last person that stood over me for something soon found out I’m not very easily intimidated – at a mere 5’8″ myself, bravery like that has come at a cost to my wits on occasion, however I’m also not the kind of person to behave in the manner that Tosh has suggested, nor am I the kind of person to give people reason to stand over me, unless they’re just the kind that feel the need to stand over me cuz I’m small.
Perhaps as a student of semiotics, text and culture, I’ve simply over-analysed you self-description and gotten the wrong connotations from it. Perhaps a lot of people are misreading intended meanings lately.
July 12, 2012 at 1:38 pm
Marty
And once again, it’s not assault. If it was, then I’ve got a busy night tomorrow charging all those people that’ll be touching me at the packed local pub.
July 12, 2012 at 1:47 pm
Michael
Guys, we’re just getting some PERSPECTIVE on rape jokes. It’s so refreshing to have an Internet Dude’s perspective on rape, rather than the fatcat lobbyists at Big Sexual Violence Survivors.
And won’s somebody PLEASE think of the poor comedians who have to…uhh, face no consequences whatsoever…when they routinely are racist, sexist and homophobic. They are the true victims here! Just like Joe Paterno.
July 12, 2012 at 1:50 pm
Angus Johnston
Marty, your first comment in the thread said Tosh “hasn’t done anything wrong except make a lot of people laugh.” So stop freaking out when people suggest you’re defending him.
Ryan, a few things…
First, the blogger’s report was first-hand. It wasn’t written by the woman who posted it, but the woman who wrote it was the woman it happened to. As for the “conflicting accounts,” the club owner is the only other person talking, and he claims he didn’t hear what Tosh said. I’d certainly be happy to have the ambiguity cleared up, but you know what? Tosh has every ability to state his side of the story, and he’s chosen not to. Given that, we go with what we have.
Second, if this woman’s account IS correct, she’s not a heckler in my book. Your milage may vary. But even if she is, Tosh’s response was completely out of line.
Finally, at risk of bringing the wrath of the anti-mangina brigade down on my head even more, I’ll say this: A huge amount of what’s laughed off as “pranks” in our culture is abusive. No adult I know would sit still for a wedgie or a purple purple, so why should we expect kids to?
July 12, 2012 at 2:13 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Alright, Angus, even if I grant you that guest post status, which I don’t, because it didn’t say “guest post”. It said, “this story was relayed to me…” But just for the sake of argument… a heckler told a story about what happened. Tosh has still said that he was misquoted when he apologized. He’s had every opportunity? It’s been a day since this story went viral, mostly because of his apology for it. I’m sure he’ll respond in length now that this has exploded the way it has. The Laugh Factory also tapes all its shows. I’m sure there’s video, and it will surface. So, let’s just chill out until we know what’s said, yeah?
Second, even if the woman’s account IS correct, she is still a heckler. I don’t care if it’s in your book or not. If you stand up and say something without being prompted, interrupting a show, you are a heckler. You want to show a comic he’s not funny? Don’t laugh. Walk out. The whole “as a woman, I felt like I could not let this go…” is, at the risk of being called a pig, bullshit. I’ve heard the same excuses for my religion jokes. Only it goes, “As a Christian, I felt I could not let this go…” Just take out woman, insert another label, another joke, and you have the same excuse. Bottom line. She chose to make her opinion more important than the show. In no other medium is this acceptable. None. And honestly, I don’t believe her account, because even though Jamie didn’t hear the whole exchange, he was aware enough to notice that she stayed for the rest of the performance. I know Jamie. I was there the night he banned Michael Richards. I was also there the day after he told George Lopez not to come back after he punched out Carlos Mencia. The guy does not mess around when it comes to his business. If he says she stayed until the end of his set, I believe him, which automatically contradicts the account in the cookie blog. Take that for what it’s worth, grain of salt and all that.
Finally, I don’t play the mangina card or the feminazi card. I try to be rational about everything. I don’t think that threatening rape is funny. I also don’t think that what Tosh “said” was threatening rape. I don’t think there was an actual invitation to rape this girl in the middle of his show. I think Tosh was being sarcastic to a dude who said, “Rape” when he asked the audience “What do you want to talk about?” I find a lot of these complaints to be histrionic… while recognizing my inherent white male privilege and all that, which I guess means, in this scenario, my opinion is moot.
July 12, 2012 at 2:19 pm
Angus Johnston
“She chose to make her opinion more important than the show. In no other medium is this acceptable. None.”
Funny you should say that to a professor.
Look. I speak in public regularly, sometimes to crowds quite a bit bigger than the one Tosh was working that night. Is it fun when someone interrupts you? No. Is it the end of the world? No, it’s not that either. You want to provoke people? Well, that’s your choice. And how people respond to that provocation is their choice. If Tosh is too much of a fragile flower to handle a woman telling him — once! — that rape jokes aren’t funny without suggesting it’d be hilarious if she were raped, then maybe he should find another line of work.
As for the first-hand/second-hand side issue, the blogger opened the post with “This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words,” and the rest of the post was in the first person singular, in quotes.
July 12, 2012 at 2:28 pm
Kevin T. Keith
“hecklers are self-aggrandizing histrionics and will do anything to get five minutes of attention. This is why we slam them.”
Seriously? Turning an entire roomful of men on a woman with an open fantasy invitation/implied threat of raping her because she objected to your rape jokes is some sort of vigilante psychotherapy? You abuse people in public because they’re “histrionic”? Somehow it’s your job as a professionally trained medical comedy technician to diagnose people’s personality disorders and apply verbal abuse?
That’s psychotic. It would make more sense to just say you’re taking revenge on them for interrupting your show. Or it may be a way to stop the interruption and regain control of your performance. Those are in some way understandable (if you’re not an asshole about it, by, for instance, inviting men in the audience to rape a woman in the room as a form of punishment). But claiming some kind of justification for abusive behavior on grounds that your impression of someone else’s shortcomings gives you the right to hurt them is creepy self-importance of a very strange and violent kind.
This whole “burdens of comedy” thing has got to stop. If you’re a comedian, your entire job is . . . to say funny things. It’s really not a big deal. It may be hard, but it’s not heroic. It doesn’t make you a moral or social arbiter. It doesn’t exempt you from the ordinary bounds of decency or decorum.
Yes, some violent and disgusting things may be funny. That’s not a reason for saying them, even if you’re a professional comedian. (Stealing is a good way to get money, but you’re not supposed to do it, even if you’re a professional thief.) Being a comedian is not license to do just anything that seems good to you. That’s being an asshole. They’re very often found in the same person, but the one does not justify the other.
In particular, being a comedian does not justify saying things you shouldn’t say in other contexts. No – really. Being “edgy” is one thing; hurting people is another. Thinking it’s OK to hurt people because of your job title makes you a sociopath – especially if that job title is “comedian”. (Get over yourself. If you’re a soldier, OK, your job involves hurting people. Maybe it’s justified. If you’re a comedian, you’re one step up from wearing clown paint, and nothing you do really matters.) Being a comedian doesn’t give you the right to be racist, sexist, homophobic, or any of the other things decent people can’t be. It doesn’t give you the right to punish people. It surely doesn’t give you the right to punish people for objecting to your use of comedy to hurt them. And . . . (it’s astonishing this has to be said) . . . it doesn’t give you the right to pop off bullshit psychological diagnoses and then bury your own hostility under some bizarre claim of the right to insult people because you think they’re “histrionic”.
Comedy is an act, not an excuse.
July 12, 2012 at 2:33 pm
schnitzengiggles
Whole lotta bitches pms’ing in here.
July 12, 2012 at 2:45 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Angus/Kevin this is exactly the point. You don’t know actually what was said. He claims he was misquoted. The club owner says that’s not what happened, even though he didn’t hear the whole thing. So you don’t know that he said what the blog says he said.
Second, do you REALLY believe he openly invited men to rape this woman? Do you really think that anyone in the audience took that comment as an open invitation to gang rape this woman? Furthermore, do you think OTHER women in the audience took it as an invitation to gang rape this woman in the middle of a comedy club? Have you ever heard Tosh perform live? Are you not aware of his sarcasm delivery?
Kevin, I guess every comic that heckle busts is a sociopathic, violent, vigilante psychotherapist then. You should steer clear of us. We’re freudian maniacs on the loose. Don’t ever by a comedy ticket again, who knows what might happen to you and your family (sarcasm)!
July 12, 2012 at 2:50 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Also, Angus, being a professor is not an art form, and is not an applicable analogy. There is no other art form where interrupting the performance is considered socially acceptable.
July 12, 2012 at 2:54 pm
Angus Johnston
Ryan, let’s set aside the “what exactly was said” issue. You’re right that we don’t know. Hopefully we will soon. I have one hunch about what we’ll learn, you have another, and maybe we’ll learn who was right at some point. For now, it’s a lot more productive to talk about your second issue, I think.
No, I don’t think he was really inviting them to rape her, whatever he said. I think he was joking about that, and I’ve said so before. But assuming that he did say something about the idea that it’d be funny if she were raped, I can certainly imagine something like this happening:
She goes out to the parking lot, or back to the bathroom. A guy recognizes her as the heckler. He leans in and says something like “I should totally rape you right now!”
Can you imagine that happening? I sure can. And if it did happen, I’d say it was a pretty seriously fucked up thing. And I’d say that Tosh deserved some responsibility for it if it did occur.
Because remember where we started with this post. Tosh went on television and told his male fans to go out and violate women physically, AND THEY DID. Dozens of women have been manhandled by men, some of them strangers, for the lulz, because Tosh told his dudes to do that. Given that that’s his schtick, I feel really comfortable saying that — if the story is as reported — he contributed to creating a really dicey environment that night.
July 12, 2012 at 3:05 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Okay, I’m glad we can finally set that one point aside.
Yes, I can imagine that happening. But it’s still related to the first point. If he said, “It sounds like she’s been raped by like five guys” in response to “rape is painful”, nobody would come up to her and say, “I should totally rape you right now.” I can also imagine this happening: Tosh finishes his set, she walks out, gets her comp ticket, comes back another night to hear Dave Attell do a bit about midgets, says to herself, “As my brother’s a midget, I can’t let this go,” Says, “Hey! midgets are people!” Dave Attell says something like, “Yeah, and they’re also great step stools!” or something, then she goes and writes a blog about how Dave Attell is a midget hater. My point is that it’s easy to imagine things, but also speculative. It could have happened, but it didn’t. She got a refund, wrote a blog, and has her fifteen minutes. Like you said, you have a hunch. I’m in the comedy community and I know these people (like I said, take it for what it’s worth). I also have a hunch that’s much different. EVERYTHING, speculative and other wise, depends on what he said. If the video comes out and it turns out lo and behold, Tosh said, “Wouldn’t it be funny if this woman got raped right now? I think every man should rape this woman right now. Come on, let’s do it.” I will come back with my hat in hand and say you were right, and I was wrong.
July 12, 2012 at 3:13 pm
Kevin T. Keith
Ryan: “I guess every comic that heckle busts is a sociopathic, violent, vigilante psychotherapist then”
Well, no. Just the ones who claim they are.
Saying “hecklers are self-aggrandizing histrionics . . . This is why we slam them” is an explicit statement that you feel justified in – and engage in – insulting people because of your perception of their psychology. That’s a crazy assumption of privilege over other people. If you’d just said it was tit-for-tat – they disrespect you by interrupting your act, so you disrespect them by talking shit about their mothers – you would at least be within the realm of normal human behavior. But what you said – as a form of justification of Tosh’s rape fantasy – was that it is OK to do that sort of thing because of your perception of hecklers’ personalities, not their actual behavior.
Now, that’s kind of absurd. I strongly suspect you “heckle bust” simply to get revenge. And clearly Tosh was doing the same thing – putting this woman in her place with the one great threat that men can always use against women, because he was angry at her. But it’s interesting that you felt a need to dress it up with this sort of high-sounding psychological condescension – claiming not only that you can determine other people’s psychological weaknesses, but that their existence gives you a right to hurt those people. That’s really, really weird, and creepy.
Again: you *could have* simply said you insult hecklers because you’re angry when they interrupt you. What you*did* say was that they have some sort of psychological weaknesses (“self-aggrandizing”, “histrionic”, “do anything”, “get attention”), and that that justifies you insulting them. You – yes – aggrandize to yourself both insights and privilege that have no grounding in fact, using them as an excuse to make other people feel bad, on the basis of your status as . . . a stage comic. That’s awfully revealing.
July 12, 2012 at 3:17 pm
Angus Johnston
But what I’m saying, Ryan, and the reason why I wrote a (second!) post about comedians on an activism blog, is that we don’t really need to speculate about whether Tosh would be okay with creating a situation in which his words directly caused blameless women to be creepily harassed by his fans, because WE HAVE VIDEOTAPE OF EXACTLY THAT.
Yes, okay, fine, the club incident is shrouded in mystery. But the incident I wrote about in this post isn’t. Tosh went on television and urged his fans to do a completely inappropriate thing to women who hadn’t heckled anyone, and a bunch of them did it. And to me what that means is this:
1. The idea that comedy is just comedy and doesn’t cause real-world harm has been debunked. Tosh’s comedy does cause real-world harm.
2. The idea that Tosh’s purported comments were grounded in, and are thus justified by, the Code of the Heckler is trashed too, because he sent his douchenozzles after women who’d done nothing to him other than exist as women in the world.
And
3. The idea that Tosh would never actually encourage his fans to do harm to someone is similarly disproven, as is the idea that comedy fans in general, and Tosh’s fans in particular, have a finely honed sense of the distinction between somebody performing the role of an asshole urging them to behave horribly and someone actually being an asshole urging them to behave horribly.
July 12, 2012 at 3:29 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Well, it’s not a causal relationship. Although, re-reading it, I do see how I made it appear that way. That’s my bad.
I don’t heckle bust because of my perceptions about their psychology. My perceptions of the heckler psychology are based on years of experience in dealing with hecklers, talking with other comics about hecklers, watching interviews with psychologists about hecklers and I stand by it. I do think it is a weakness to think that you have the right to interrupt a show that other people paid to see because you disagree. I think it is an extreme social weakness, and one of the most selfish things you can do. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNRNCk3YwqE (5:20).
I heckle bust, because as you say, it is a form of punishment. Like I alluded to earlier, it is unacceptable to interrupt any other form of art, but because stand up breaks the fourth wall sometimes, people don’t understand its rhetorical nature. Sometimes you can joke around with them and get around it. Sometimes you can’t. Sometimes you can, but choose not to. As far as aggrandizing myself as a stage comedian to have a certain privilege, I do no such thing. People do. When they pay money to sit in a chair and listen to me tell jokes. They don’t pay money to hear a heckler interrupt the show. I’m sure that sounds massively egotistic to you, but let’s face it. I stand up on stage in front of strangers and talk about my life, so it’s an egotistical profession.
As far as what Tosh said, again… just see above. I’ve said it three times already.
July 12, 2012 at 3:41 pm
Kevin T. Keith
Regarding the actual harm to the woman in question – and by extension every woman in the room, all of whom got a pointed lesson in what happens to women who object to rape – I think it’s more than has been acknowledged.
You can make a case that his statement “Wouldn’t it be funny if that girl got raped by, like, five guys right now? Like right now?” wasn’t technically a threat to rape her, in the same sense that his “apology” wasn’t really an apology. He phrased it as a hypothetical, not an imperative, so it’s totally not his fault what happens afterward. With that kind of expertise in weaseling, he never has to take responsibility for anything he says.
But that ignores the culture in which such statements can be, and are, made. Ironically, Tosh complains that his remark was “taken out of context”* – but in what context was it said? Rape jokes take place – in fact, they can only take place – in a rape culture. That culture is one in which every woman is always under threat of rape, virtually every moment of every day, every place she goes, no matter what she does to protect herself.
The woman who spoke up, and every other woman in that room, was someone who faced the real threat of rape just coming to or leaving the club that night. She was someone who lived in a culture in which it is possible for her to actually be raped under almost any circumstances, and in which anonymous crowds incited to violence against women are one of the most dangerous circumstances. No woman in that room could have heard what took place there and not felt that the salience of rape as a real threat in her life had gone up at least a little bit at that moment. Every woman there was transported, instantly, from a room in which she was only ordinarily at risk of being raped by any random man to a room in which every single man in the club was actively, at that moment, under the explicit encouragement and endorsement of the performer, fantasizing about raping a particular woman, a real woman, the target of the performer’s hostility, right there at that time. Every woman there heard all the men laugh at that idea, saw the woman who spoke up against rape culture mocked out of the club with not one man there supporting her, knew unquestionably what would happen to her if she also objected to the idea of a fellow club-goer being raped by the men around her as an act of comedy. For the immediate victim, of course, all that had to have an even more direct and personal impact.
Those fears and dangers are not hypothetical, and not imaginary. They are real parts of every woman’s life in this (and every other) culture. Adding to them, inflaming them, encouraging a crowd of men to throw off any inhibitions on violent misogynist fantasy and direct the worst form of hostility toward one particular woman right there in the room, is a direct contribution to the culture of violence that all those women live in. They can’t escape or ignore those threats at any moment in their lives, and they can’t ignore or overlook what Tosh deliberately did to increase them.
Men have the privilege of treating rape as a joke. Women never have the privilege of imagining rape is not a real threat. Men who make jokes about rape contribute to the culture of danger and threat that women live in. Tosh did so explicitly, and almost as viciously as could be imagined. The impact of his remark is as real as the threat that it evoked. He imagines that doesn’t matter, because he can. Indifference to the effect of their behavior on others is the hallmark of abusers.
* Regarding context and accuracy: Tosh hasn’t claimed he was misquoted, only that the quote was out of context. I’m having a hard time imagining a context in which the quoted sentence isn’t an endorsement of that woman’s being gang-raped by Tosh’s fans “right now”. So I’m not bothering to worry about some imaginary “side of the story” he can’t be bothered to tell that makes him not an asshole.
July 12, 2012 at 3:42 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Angus, I would agree with points 1 and 3, which is the only reason why I commented on this blog. Because it was an actual angle worth talking about.
I disagree with point 2 because he did not pick a woman out of the crowd and say what he said (whatever it might have been). He either 1) told a joke about replacing his sister’s pepper spray can with silly string (a funny joke that my girlfriend and I were rolling about) tagged it with “rape is always funny” and this woman interrupted. 2) responded to a guy in the audience shouting out “rape” by saying sarcastically “yeah, sure, rape is always funny.” to which she shouted something out, or 3) was setting up a premise about a rape being funny, which she interrupted. So many conflicting accounts of what happened, not sure, but in any scenario, she shouted out at him. He did not pick her out for being a woman and joke that men rape her. She heckled him. He retorted back. It’s fair game up to a point. The point being if it was done maliciously and actually threatening rape, which I don’t think it was based on the conversations I’ve had, but I don’t know. I wasn’t there. Like I said, if it turns out that what he said was really bad, I’ll be the first person to come back and apologize on it. But I do think that we should in fact wait regarding the incident at the Laugh Factory.
As far as 1, and 3 go, yeah, I can see how the argument can be made that he crosses the line. It’s a conversation I’m willing to have. Absolutely, but like Marty said, I don’t think that it should be limited to touching women’s belly fat. I think that you should attack him for all his pranks that cross the line, including ball punches, etc. I just don’t think we should tie it in to the club incident until we know all the facts. It might be related. It might not be. We don’t know yet.
July 12, 2012 at 3:44 pm
Ryan Hoffman
As Meatloaf said, don’t be sad, 2 outta 3 ain’t bad. =)
July 12, 2012 at 3:45 pm
Heidi
Angus, thank you for posting this and Kevin, thank you for being supportive!
Ryan, comedy is an art in which heckling is, if I’m not mistaken, seen as part of the gig. If the rape joke happened as described, and Tosh was simply responding to a heckler, it could have been done in a way that did not trivialize rape or the woman you’re calling a heckler – perhaps, if he meant his joke as some form of irony about rape culture (which I doubt, given the trend I’ve seen in his humor to trash already marginalized groups), he might have made a sharp comment that lampooned her missing his entire point, or something.
But he didn’t. His comment specifically set her up to be a target of violence, even if it was imaginary violence.
Now, if events happened differently, certainly I would reconsider my opinion of that particular event, although not his systematic marginalization of oppressed groups, but if it did happen? He was, of course, free to voice his [bad] joke and, as such, has to face the consequences of his freedom to voice that joke.
Lindy West gives a good rundown of precisely what a comedian is entitled to, freedom-wise, over here: http://jezebel.com/5925186/how-to-make-a-rape-joke
July 12, 2012 at 3:54 pm
Kevin T. Keith
Look, we all agree that Michael Richards’s famous meltdown was indefensible. (Although I’m even prepared to say that I don’t think it shows he is objectively more racist than the average white person.) Why is it so hard to say that this Tosh incident was similar?
I don’t want to get into an “Oppression Olympics” event over whether calling someone the N-word is worse than holding someone up as an object of rape fantasy for a roomful of men. We don’t have to assign points to either of them to agree that women have as much right to object to the latter as blacks do to the former – and that any decent person should sympathize with the victim in both cases.
We have gotten to the point in our culture that openly using the worst racial slurs is, by almost universal acclimation, grounds for condemnation. We haven’t gotten to the point where threatening to rape a woman in public is even very controversial. You cannot defend yourself against the former – if you do it, your career is shut down, at least for a long time. But not only do you not have to defend yourself for directing rape fantasies at a woman in public as a way to hurt her, legions of your bro fans will appear to defend it for you.
That’s fucked up.
July 12, 2012 at 3:58 pm
Ryan Hoffman
Heidi, you are mistaken. Heckling happens, but it is not part of the gig.
Yes, Tosh’s comment, if that is what he said (which, again, I don’t buy based on Jamie’s explanation and others that were there. By the way Kevin- “@danieltosh all the out of context misquotes aside, i’d like to sincerely apologize http://j.mp/PJ8bNs “) could have been better. Yes, it was over the line, and I’m sure he’d like to have it back. Not just because of the backlash, but because after you get heckled you come up with ten better lines once you get off stage. Like I said, if it indeed turns out that he said what he said, then by all means, it was over the line. But hecklers get no pity, it’s game on. You say things that are over the line to a heckler sometimes. You apologize, and you move on. The degree of the punishment should depend on what words were actually spoken. I’m asking people to hold judgment until we find out all the facts. If you can’t do that, well, it reveals a lot about you.
July 12, 2012 at 4:28 pm
Ryu
Right, so if I tell you to rape someone, doesn’t matter why or how, and you do it, I’m to blame? I don’t care if I know you are the sort of person to do that, it’s still not my fault. If I paid you, or put a gun to your head, maybe I become an accessory to your crime. Otherwise, because you have no self-control is not a reason that I am to blame for your actions. Of course, all of the above speaks to a hypothetical ‘you’.
The argument here is that Tosh is to blame for the actions of other people. That’s stupid for any angle no matter what he said or where (TV or Comedy Club).
July 12, 2012 at 4:54 pm
Randi
If someone, male or female, touches me anywhere without my consent, I will not hesitate to break their nose just like I did to the bastard who tried this on me.
His nose didn’t heal right, had to be re-broken twice. :D
That being said, rape of ANYONE, men or women, is never funny. Daniel Tosh is an infantile prick.
July 12, 2012 at 4:55 pm
joyofresistance
As to the assertion that Tosh’s egging people on to assault each other is only a “big deal” when it comes to women:
1) First of all, there is a whole range of intimidating and sexist remarks constantly directed at women, both in ‘normal’ social life and on comedy stages, that NEVER gets made into a “big deal”. Trust me–I’ve been an adult woman for a long time–this stuff is endemic–I WISH it were a “big deal” socially–then maybe it would stop.
2) As for the difference between Tosh’s telling guys to sneak up and punch each other in the balls vs suggesting that they rape women? The difference is that there’s an epidemic of women being raped (and subjected to unwanted touching)! Stats are something like one in three women reporting sexual assault or harassment in some form. Though I am not for people sneaking up and punching anyone in their genitals, this act does not have the same effect on the entire society.
To be specific: As a man, when you leave your house, you are not planning your trip in terms of staying safe from men who may sneak up on you and punch you in your genital area. A woman leaving her house is consciously or unconsciously planning her activities around not being in places where she could be vulnerable to rape or sexual assault. It’s a part of her life EVERY DAY.
That’s the difference.
July 12, 2012 at 5:44 pm
What we missed
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July 12, 2012 at 5:48 pm
Domynoe Loeb
Why do any of you think that “Well, there’s assault jokes on men that aren’t being protested” is the way to defend rape jokes? That’s not a defense. That’s a deflection. That’s a WHINE.
For all you men who don’t think rape jokes are a problem, give this a read: http://oforganon.tumblr.com/post/11150747104/to-all-those-men-who-dont-think-the-rape-jokes-are-a
July 12, 2012 at 6:34 pm
De Vermis Mysteriis
Whats worse, jokes about rape or murder?
July 12, 2012 at 7:02 pm
Dear, Daniel Tosh: You Know What’s Even Less Funny than Rape Jokes? Rape Threats | The Opinioness of the World
[…] course, Tosh is the same person who incorporates physical assault against women into his comedy, encouraging viewers to videotape sneaking up behind women and touching them non-consensually. Tosh […]
July 12, 2012 at 9:06 pm
Jasmine Stone
Why go to a comedy show and complain about a joke? She was a heckler. If the heckler wins, he loses the audience. I thought it was hilarious. Women (or girls as your acting) complaining about a comedians jokes is like vegetarians complaining on how “violently” lettuce is picked. This is 2012 and we complain about a woman who got put in her place for attempting to ruin a special? I would of done the same thing. This makes me feel better about my life by comparing it to people that try to take out a comedian
July 12, 2012 at 10:24 pm
Dayzd89
Thank you for your article. As a rape survivor, I thank you. Keep up the great work.
July 12, 2012 at 10:43 pm
mattcornell (@mattcornell)
Don’t forget this clip of Tosh on Comedy Central laughing at and then mimicking the actual rape of Gaddafi.
July 12, 2012 at 11:31 pm
Rachel McDonald
Rape is not funny-thanks for the follow up on this story
July 12, 2012 at 11:46 pm
Guy Horatio
As a male, people saying we having literally nothing to worry about are insane, yeah I probably won’t get raped, but if I walk through a city I’m not going to walk through the shitty parts because I would rather not get robbed or murdered for my cell phone #Stop the Robber/Murder Culture!
July 12, 2012 at 11:52 pm
Angus Johnston
Okay, Guy, here you go. Just for the hell of it.
Most women who are raped aren’t wandering a shitty part of town, literally or figuratively. Most women who are raped are hanging out with friends, or on dates, or at parties, or in any one of a long list of other situations in which most men would have literally (next to) nothing to worry about.
Because most rapes are acquaintance rapes, not stranger rapes, and most rapists maneuver themselves into positions where they can take advantage of someone’s vulnerability rather than jumping out from behind a bush.
And the fact that you can sit there at your keyboard, half a hundred comments into this thread, and insinuate that when women get raped it’s because they didn’t do enough to keep themselves out of the literal or figurative “shitty parts” of town?
That right there is what we refer to as rape culture.
July 13, 2012 at 12:04 am
holdyourdevil
Angus, thank you so much for writing this piece. As another rape survivor, I cannot tell you how much appreciate this, as well as your calm, intelligent, and consistent replies to many of the comments you are receiving.
July 13, 2012 at 1:25 am
r
Thank you for writing this.
July 13, 2012 at 3:19 am
blackluke8
Angus you are a complete vagina. You are one of these tools that things you are tremendous example of a human because you are willing to redefine anything that could even be considered mildly offensive or inappropriate as a crime. If a stranger with a video camera touches me, I may very well kick his a$$. But if you think I’m calling the cops and pressing charges, your wrong. Real men leave the hysteric, sanctimonious, money grubbing pansy antics to f@ggots like you.
July 13, 2012 at 9:58 am
Alli
Frankly I’d be pissed if a male audience member had “heckled” him and Tosh had said that it’d be funny if he got raped, too. The arguement “how come people only cry out when it’s directe towards women?” is therefore void.
July 13, 2012 at 10:06 am
Angus Johnston
Thank you to r, holdyourdevil, Rachel, Dayzd89, and Josiphine for your kind words.
July 13, 2012 at 12:30 pm
Treefinger
Daniel Tosh has been hated by anyone with good taste and ethics for years for his constant unfunny and offensive jokes. There has been outrage over his racist, sexist, homophobic and otherwise shitty jokes before, it just hasn’t gotten as much public attention. The difference is that an offensive joke is one thing, but one that literally says it would be funny if someone in the audience is assaulted crosses a whole ‘nother line.
Angus, my condolences for all the disgusting MRAs invading your comment section.
July 13, 2012 at 1:31 pm
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July 13, 2012 at 1:32 pm
Jason
Get over it she heckled him so he cracked a joke at her. Do you really believe people would just start raping her right there. If you don’t like his comedy then don’t go to his shows. It’s that easy. Free speech.
July 13, 2012 at 2:55 pm
Nathan
If lightly touching somebody’s stomach without their consent is “physical assault” then there are millions of ticklers that ought to be in jail right now.
July 13, 2012 at 3:31 pm
Traveler
You don’t go up to strangers and lightly stroke any part of their body. For pete’s sake. I can’t believe that people think this is okay. Would you like some fool you don’t know to stroke you anywhere? JFC. You’d think it was someone with not just a lack of social boundaries but a propensity for unpredictable behavior, which is scary as hell.
I actually don’t have a problem with his act and tasteless rape joke, because he’s a tasteless kind of comic and it’s talk, but any stranger who lightly strokes me or my daughter for the benefit of a taped prank is likely to get tazed.
July 13, 2012 at 6:11 pm
Jonah
Hey Angus have you seen this Tosh challenge? It’s known as “Slap, Lick, Fondle” It has some dick grabbing as you suggested would be the equal of “lightly touching” a stomach.
July 13, 2012 at 6:35 pm
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July 13, 2012 at 7:02 pm
Guy Horatio
Criminals act like criminals news at 11. The majority of murders are committed by people you know to, doesn’t mean you can’t be proactive about it.
July 13, 2012 at 7:09 pm
juhbroni
You’re saying going up behind a woman and lightly touching their belly is “physically assaulting” them? Are you kidding me?!. He even said “Beware, they’ll pretend like they don’t love it.” It’s obviously supposed to be done in a playful manner, just like all of his jokes.
It’s his job to make ppl laugh and that’s clearly all he was trying to do. If someone heckles him, of course he’s going to crack a joke back, it wasn’t meant to offend anyone but just to make people laugh. Which it did. Stop being so sensitive and learn that its all for the sake of humor.
Laugh once in awhile, stop taking everything so seriously.
July 13, 2012 at 7:10 pm
Guy Horatio
Also the one person who mentioned she took a different route home because of fear of criminal activity, that sounds like avoiding the bad parts of town to me.
July 13, 2012 at 7:15 pm
Daniel Tosh rape controversy continues | Try2connect News Blog
[…] He apologized for making a female audience member the subject of his rape joke last Friday at the Laugh Factory. The joke and Tosh’s apology have caused a firestorm of opinion, ranging from “rape is never funny” to “lighten up, everyone” and more. […]
July 13, 2012 at 7:17 pm
Angus Johnston
Consent is a beautiful thing, Jonah.
July 13, 2012 at 7:21 pm
Angus Johnston
Juhbroni, I’ve asked this before, but apparently I’m not bored yet, so here goes.
If a guy came up behind you, a stranger, and put his arm around you and laid his hand on your belly, how would you respond? Would you be happy about it? Now imagine that the guy is videotaping you. Now imagine that you’ve been sexually assaulted in the past. Still think it’s awesome?
I’m guessing not. I’m guessing you’d be pissed off. So why is it different when the victim is a woman who’s not you?
July 13, 2012 at 9:03 pm
Ryu
Now imagine I punch the guy who touched me because he’s a stranger and what the hell. Then, I don’t blame any of this on Daniel Tosh because I’m not a moron.
July 13, 2012 at 9:32 pm
bnerd85
I don’t get the “He’s a comedian. Lighten up” defense so many people using. And? Last I checked, being a comedian doesn’t automatically exempt you from trying to be a decent human being. You can make all sorts of jokes about taboo subjects without being a douchebag. It isn’t impossible. And if you really get that emotional over being called out for saying something so asinine and insensitive then something tells me you have more tied up in the thought process the joke exposed than just making people “LOL”.
This whole things reminds me a little of the Tracy Morgan controversy. As a gay man, I absolutely thought he crossed the line. But then I have very close friends who have been beaten and under threat of violence just for being who they are. And I’ve certainly felt that anxiety that it could happen to me. So no, I didn’t find the “joke” funny. I found it offensive and dickish. Same here. I’ve had too many people close to me tell me their stories about rape and what they’ve had to endure since to take such a horrific thing so lightly. If anyone finds that so awful, then frankly they have their priorities completely fucked. Trying to understand someone else’s pain in a way that makes it less likely you’ll cause them further pain isn’t a bad thing. What’s so hard to understand about that?
July 13, 2012 at 10:15 pm
Max
Daniel Tosh and his followers aren’t real men anyway, real men protect and care for the women in their lives, not make insane jokes about their belly fat and raping them and generally real men confront and destroy the ones that do.
July 13, 2012 at 10:32 pm
Lucy
I am a rape survivor, and while rape jokes are not in good taste, they are not illegal. But it is really sad to think that most of these men here and everywhere have women in their lives, that they love dearly, but still think something like rape jokes (directed at these women that they love and all women) are ok, even though rape in these women’s lives is a very real threat. I think rape jokes are one thing, but encouraging men in the audience to rape because Tosh’s ego was hurt, is really wrong. Chances are everyone here knows a rape survivor in their lives man or woman, (more likely woman), and if she knew you were defending this guy, saw you laughing at her terrible pain because it’s “just a joke”, and her life altering experience, she would never look at you as a man again, she would think of you as a pathetic scumbag as bad as her rapist. I know at least for me, if a man came up to me out of nowhere and touched me, in anyway at all, he would be leaving in a body bag via my husband.
July 13, 2012 at 10:45 pm
Linn
Chris Brown is still making records and Ben roethlisberger is still playing football yet you’re all up in arms about tosh. Yeah he was out of line but if she was in his audience she knew what kind of humor he has and if had the balls to yell out, she knew what to expect if she was going to be a rude audience member so i don’t want to hear it making that women out to be a victim she wasn’t so helpless herself. Get over yourselves trying to fight for women when it’s bad all over, like this is what should be news right, a comedien doing his job, not bullying around the world where a 13 yr old was assaulted in a mechanic shop by two older men. You all are something else.
July 13, 2012 at 11:08 pm
holdyourdevil
But thank god for you, Linn, really. You have helped me see the light: why should we be concerned about women’s rights, when ‘it’s bad all over’? Please, Master Linn, do tell us what exactly we should be focusing our efforts on, since 1) you are the expert here, and 2) we are clearly incapable of being concerned about more than one thing at once.
Also, please direct us to your own activism blog, since you seem to know what you’re doing and I’m sure you have written much better things than Professor Angus here.
July 13, 2012 at 11:30 pm
eeminy (@eeminy)
Angus, I’m really glad you’ve let us see even the gratuitously offensive comments, because it’s been so illustrative of exactly the point you’re trying to make. Again and again, folks defending Tosh’s rape humor as no big deal feel free to refer to those taking offense as “vagina”, “militant feminist,” “butthurt women”, “mangina”, “feminazi”, “pms’ing bitches”, “f@ggot”, “pansy”, “overly dramatizing”, “hysteric”, “moron”. (And that’s just from this followup post — the comments on your original post feature some beauts as well.)
Anytime anyone feels like saying that this has nothing to do with gender or that women have no reason to feel especially targeted or threatened compared with men or any other group — that everyone should just lighten up and get over themselves because it’s just a joke — take a look at the ugliness that’s found hand in hand with that defense.
Feminist women are reduced to their genitalia, men are emasculated, and both are portrayed as being overemotional and/or cognitively challenged. And most ironically, even when these commenters include an obligatory assurance that of course rape is wrong, the narrow focus of their ad hominem language conveys the exact opposite — that if you disagree with me, you are nothing but an emasculated orifice, unworthy of personhood and incapable of meaningful expression.
Also, a quick note to Ryan: I get what you’re saying about wanting to give benefit of the doubt as to what Tosh may or may not have said until firmer evidence is available. I’m willing to give him the benefit of *some* doubt, certainly. But I’d argue that Tosh’s past record is absolutely relevant to determining the amount of actual doubt I’m willing to give him the benefit of. If I read a blog post describing the same events at a stand-up show by some comedian whose reputation I knew to be pro-women or even someone I’d never heard of and knew nothing about, I might wonder if the story had been overreported or something had somehow been misconstrued. But with Tosh, this very post and the attached comments show a number of other incidents where he has capitalized on *actual* assault for his act or tv show. That shifts the balance considerably, and for me lends a great deal of inherent plausibility to the story as told. No, I can’t say for sure whether it *did* happen exactly that way. But the cumulative evidence of the reports and Tosh’s past behavior make me believe, on balance, that it probably did, until new facts come to light to shift that balance. And until then, yes, I think it’s fair to hold him to account for it.
July 14, 2012 at 12:52 am
Ryan Hoffman
Eeminy, thank you for addressing me. I’m taking the gender of the blogger out of this post because I don’t think it’s relevant to my point, and using her pronoun only hurts my case. But I do agree, guys using mangina, feminazi, etc only hurts my position, so guys, cut that shit out. Think rationally, form an argument, and leave the cave paintings behind. Thanks.
I object to this post being linked to the incident at the club, although it’s probably pointless to not at this point, and I’m tired of repeating it (This will probably be my last comment, thanks for the discussion, but I see we’re at an impasse), because this person is a heckler. This individual broke the code of the club, crossed the line, and had it coming. You don’t heckle the comic. If you do, you open the floodgates. I don’t condone what was reported he said. I’ve already said as much. You buy the ticket, you give consent. You don’t get to say, “well, as a ____, I could not let this go…” Well, guess what, yeah you can. In fact, that’s what you paid to do. You paid to sit there and listen to 5 or 6 people talk into a microphone, have some drinks, laugh, shut up, laugh, and shut up. It’s really simple. This person chose not to. This human chose to interrupt the show for everyone else. He is paid to say what HE thinks is funny, not what the audience thinks is funny. Not what the audience thinks is culturally acceptable, but the OPPOSITE. You can judge it however you want to judge it, but he gets paid to say things into a microphone and hopefully people laugh. If the cookies blog is accurate that he was setting up a premise to tell a rape joke, then this person TOOK AWAY his opportunity to make that funny for everyone else in that room. Would it have been funny? Maybe not. In fact, knowing Tosh, probably not, but it was part of HIS show, not her show. Period. “Well that doesn’t excuse directing an invitation to rape towards a woman!” I agree. As I’ve said before though, I don’t think that anyone took it that way except for her. By the same token, having vile things said to you doesn’t excuse you for being a heckler.
“But Ryan, WHY do you think nobody else took it that way but the heckler?” Because he got a standing ovation, no women that were there have come forward and supported the blog, or complained, and the heckler has wished to remain anonymous. You know why? Because this heckler CHOSE to be offended. Felt, “My own feelings are more important than the joke is about to tell/told.” This person CHOSE to confront him. And it got the attention of the comic. Oops.
You don’t heckle. Comics, male and female alike, have been heckled, and that’s why the big ones are rallying around Tosh, male and female alike. If you don’t think heckling is a big deal, you’re wrong. If you think stand up
“isn’t that hard,” and saying it is plays up some “comedy burden,” you’ve never done it. If you’ve never had to slam a heckler and then read a letter to the club that tells a complete victimization made for TV movie adaptation of what happened over beers with a club owner, you probably don’t understand why I don’t buy this girl’s blog for a second. You want to say Tosh is an irresponsible TV host? Fine. You want to say you don’t like his show and think it’s bad for culture, dangerous, and should be off the air? I am right behind you! I hate that shitty show. It represents the most banal and idiotic of our country on the instant fame generator known as Youtube. Just don’t sit there and tell me this heckler is a victim, because they’re not.
July 14, 2012 at 1:01 am
Crystal
I’d like thank Angus for the article, and for continuing to defend women in this response column. I’d also like to give a shout out to Kevin for your eloquence on the subject. I’d also like to thank the other men who have come to the defense of women in this comment area. As you can see by the one-name or one-letter usernames posted by women, we tend not to feel as comfortable revealing our identities online in regard to a topic like this. Rape is something, that women think about every single day, whether on a public street, at a friend’s party, or at home, alone. As a topic of conversation, rape leaves us feeling even more vulnerable than the usually unexpressed anxiety about being attacked, particularly when it is either dismissed as a non-issue or as an issue only for over-sensitive crybabies. It’s even worse to find rape levelled against women as a form of insult. “You should be raped”, “I hope you get raped”, etc. Fortunately, I haven’t seen any of those particular comments in response to this article, but I have read them over and over again by commenters on female blogs and Twitter over the past several days on this and other feminist issues. So thank you to the guys who vehemently and consistently believe that hoping women get raped isn’t funny or acceptable.
For my part, in regard to the heckling, I have to say that the woman isn’t looking for fame. Her name has not been made public, she is not doing TV appearances, and her story was told anonymously on a friend’s blog. So the attention-whore accusation doesn’t stand as far as I’m concerned. I also believe her account, partly because I was in a similar situation once. At an orientation for a new job, the woman hosting the orientation asked everyone if a woman who is dressed provacatively deserves to be raped. The answer was almost uniquivocally “NO” for most of the men and women there, but there was some debate in which one man, as his argument, just kept saying “yes” and then describing the possible outfit the hypothetical victim would be wearing. The vehemence and unthinking repetition of his argument upset me to the point to which I started crying and I had to leave the room. Now, was I oversensitive? Maybe. I’d spent 10 years as an agoraphobic, and this was the first group interaction I’d had since high school. But was I trying to get attention? Hell no. It was the first day of my new job, and I hate having people see me cry. I don’t like showing vulnerability, and I certainly didn’t want to seem weak in front of my new employers and coworkers. The response that I had to this man’s comment was involuntary, and I believe that Tosh’s “heckler” had a similar experience. Honestly, I wish that I had been brave enough to just tell the guy to stuff it, but at that point I didn’t have the emotional strength to do that. Now, I’d like to point out that I’ve never been raped. Experiences of molestation of a child, however, made me incredibly sensitive on the subject. Again, overly-sensitive? Possibly. But I don’t believe that the woman in Tosh’s audience could actually stop herself from yelling out like that, any more than I could stop myself from crying on my first day of work.
In regard to Tosh’s actual comment toward the woman — I think people say stupid things, sometimes. He said a stupid, insensitive, unkind thing that was, as it has been said before, to “put her in her place”. I think that the context of “her place” has as much to do with her gender as it does with her being an audience member, but I don’t really want to go into that aspect right now. I don’t think Tosh is an evil rapist who likes it when guys rape women. And I do believe, sorry, I mean hope that he regretted the harshness of his response. The thing is that Tosh is a symptom, not the disease — and the worst part is that he’s an unwitting symptom. He perpetrates hateful stereotypes and laughs at things that aren’t funny as though they are. The point of his comedy isn’t to edify us in the face of racism and sexism. He really celebrates these things. That’s the shame of Tosh. The shame of some of the responses to this article is that some men seem to believe that women overexaggerate their reactions to rape and topics of rape in order to beat men over the head with their own misogyny. This isn’t true. We’re upset about rape because we don’t like being raped. We’re upset that you don’ seem to care about rape, because it means that our being raped is okay with you.
In regard to the straw man argument of “I can’t tolerate jokes about midgets” — y’know, I don’t like jokes that come at the expense of midgets or little people. The fact that this is your straw man, as though being upset about the degredation and exploitation of an entire group of people who are marginalized along with women, gays, non-Christians, and non-whites is upsetting. Worse, the argument that men get murdered and robbed, so we shouldn’t care about women getting raped is, just an awful and transparent deflection. Shame on you.
July 14, 2012 at 3:14 am
winnie
Are we to believe every second hand anonymous blog post as truth? It isn’t clear whether he directly stated what the blogger posted post as they stated that a friend and another friend went to the show. Did you read the blog posting or is this a game of telephone response. Yes Tosh is innapropriate and he says things that are wrong, but a blog posted anon and a cypervigilante out cry is not the answer. Try supporting womens selters, awareness and prevention groups. And don’t lightly touch bellies or strike anyone on there person.
July 14, 2012 at 4:13 am
Minuialear (@minuialear)
Ryan: Whether she was heckling or not is irrelevant, considering either way his comment was out of line and completely uncalled for (as you admit). There are dozens of things he could have said (“Then why is everyone else laughing?”/”They are if you have a sense of humor”/whatever), and the fact that the first idea that came to his mind was to jokingly say it’d be funny for the woman to be gang-raped should be seen as a problem. The fact that his comment was or could be considered a clever comeback, by him or by others, should be seen as a problem. Saying “she was heckling, so she should have expected some kind of comeback” is valid, but arguing that she should have expected him to say it’d be funny if she got gang-raped isn’t. For getting a response like that, she is a victim (just like how if a female comic had jokingly said a guy deserves to be castrated for speaking during her show, he’d also be a victim, even if he was a heckler; just like how if a black guy boos a comic’s joke and the comic tells him to leave the club and get back to the plantation, he’s a victim, even though he booed the comic’s joke). Heckling isn’t necessarily respectful, but the reaction to rude behavior should be equal to the behavior. If some guy punches me and I retaliate by pulling out a gun and shooting him in the face, does the guy I just shot really not deserve to be called a victim of some sort?
Also, saying that the fact that others found it funny isn’t proof of her being over-sensitive, nor is the fact that she remains anonymous or that other women haven’t spoken publicly about it proof that it either didn’t happen or that they also found it funny. If I make a joke in a RC church about clubbing Protestants and all the Christians laugh except for a few Protestants, that doesn’t mean that those Protestants are being over-sensitive (and yes, I think it’s fair to assume the majority of his crowd was male, given the types of jokes he goes for). And given the amount of people getting so worked up about the offense to Tosh that this post has caused, I don’t see how it’s surprising to anyone that the woman hasn’t stepped forward publicly to disclose her identity. Nor do I see how it’s surprising how other offended parties may not feel motivated to speak out either, given the backlash. So let’s not use speculation about other people’s motives as proof that her perogative was to become offended.
July 14, 2012 at 7:53 am
Himani
Marty – RAPE IS NOT A JOKE. Those who think so are utter idots and sadists. Being a woman myself, I am outraged to hear such nonsense and on top of that enouraging fans to do the same? What’s the probability that his sick humor does not provoke people doing what recently happened to a girl in guwahati – molested by a mob of 20 men and videotaped. If this is your idea of fun, you’re sick.
July 14, 2012 at 11:58 am
Sharon M.
I’ve been drugged and raped in my own house, almost of my friends have been raped, I’ve had men touch me and even look down my shirt for a “peek”. If we are raped, WE are held accountable, NOT the rapist: what were you wearing? Why were you out so late? How much did you drink?
Why isn’t the criminal held accountable? I challenge any man to live as a women for one month. You have no idea how fucked up and misogynistic our society is.
July 14, 2012 at 1:09 pm
Joy
I just want to say that if someone came up from behind me, lightly touched my stomach, backed off and started laughing; no, I wouldn’t be angry. I’d be confused. Then, I’d see their video camera/phone and start laughing at the stupidity of it. Why would you instantly get angry is what I’d want to know.
To quote Big Trouble:
Bruce: I hope you realize you’ve just committed assault.
Henry Desalvo: I know, I know. Time was, you actually had to hit somebody.
I’m also pretty sure that Tosh was saying rape NOT funny. So let me make sure I have the supposed events correct here:
* Daniel Tosh asked the audience what they’d like to talk about.
* Some idiot yelled out “rape!”
* Tosh makes some clearly sarcastic remarks about how rape is *always* funny. (read: rape is not funny, dude) this is how sarcasm works. He’s usually pretty obvious about his sarcasm. This does not come across in text.
* A woman in the audience says “Rape is painful”
* Tosh retorts “Wouldn’t it be funny if she got raped by 5 guys right now?” because he likes irony. Replace the word ‘funny’ with the word ‘ironic’. He doesn’t actually think that would be funny. He’s just responding to a woman who is bringing the atmosphere down in his act. Just like he responded to the idiot who started the rape subject.
* Tosh moves on to finish his act.
* The woman in the audience stayed to watch. She told her blogger friend.
July 14, 2012 at 1:25 pm
margueritereed
When your mother or sister or daughter gets raped, then come talk to us about “militant feminism.”
July 14, 2012 at 4:11 pm
holdyourdevil
When you’ve been groped on the subway by strangers, and then are told to take a belly-touching ‘prank’ with a sense of humor, get back to me, Joy. What is it with people like you being incapable of understanding that people are going to react to these situations differently, and more negatively, because *gasp* they have different life experiences than you do? Get your heads out of the sand.
July 14, 2012 at 4:12 pm
holdyourdevil
Also, Joy, Tosh used a video of an actual rape of a teenage boy on his Comedy Central show. Please explain to me how I’m supposed to find the sarcasm in that?
July 14, 2012 at 4:56 pm
Ryu
Seriously… We’re gonna call two idiots getting into a fight with a giant dildo a ‘rape scene’. That’s not a rape scene, that’s what idiotic fuckin’ teenage boys do. Seriously, I’ve seen these ‘frat guy’ high school and college boys and they think that shit is funny. In turn, watching those two idiots do that with Tosh’s commentary over it is pretty funny, and I can all but guarantee that Comedy Central would NEVER let them air it if the ‘raped’ boy pressed charges.
The problem with this whole argument is that every single person we see Tosh physically prank, works in his office or agrees to come on his show. They could quit or sue (if he did something they clearly didn’t consent to), but it’s likely he has taken precautions against that, and everyone in that building has consented to being a part of his pranks (even if that just means they knew what they were getting into). In the end, I’m not a rapist, RAPE is not funny, but a rape joke might be.
I talked to my girlfriend and best friend about this, they know my point of view. My girlfriend might not even really think rape jokes are funny, but she’d criticize me on the immaturity of my humor, not the offensiveness of it. She knows, in the end, of all the people in her life, I’d be the first person to *literally* nail someone to the wall for hurting her. If a creepy guy tried to talk too close to her in a club and made her uncomfortable, I’d still bend his fingers back to his wrist and walk him the fuck away. However, if a comedian made a rape joke at her on stage, I’d be the first person to tell her to chill the fuck out if she got bent out of shape.
Fact is, anyone who would rape a woman because Daniel Tosh says so, is an awful person regardless of Tosh’s presence. Tosh is providing a great service to the world, which is to expose the weak-minded. I could probably discuss Daniel Tosh with any individual and determine by the end of the conversation if they are worth wasting any effort on. If they are easily offended, or all too eager to dildo fuck their buddies to emulate something Tosh never even glorified, then I know they’re too stupid for words. That’s my stopping point, I’m out of this conversation, I’ve spent my word allotment on stupid people. In the end, this argument isn’t going to ruin Tosh’s life, every person who posts this give him free publicity, and you’d be an even bigger idiot to think that it’s bad publicity. Thanks for supporting a comedian I enjoy.
July 14, 2012 at 8:34 pm
Joy
Holdyourdevil, okay, anywhere in my comment did you see that I was discounting feelings of people who’ve been groped maliciously? No. I used the wonderful word “I”. This word is used to relay my own experiences and feelings. *I* would probably laugh after being confused, as I previously stated. You might feel violated and victimized. I don’t know. I don’t know you, nor do I know everybody and everybody’s feelings and life experiences. Do you?
As for Tosh’s sarcasm: I didn’t condone the dildo fight. I never mentioned the dildo fight. I said sarcasm is part of his delivery in his stand-up. And, no, it wasn’t rape imo. It was humiliating and psycho and sexual assault (though no charges were probably made). It was no worse than the shit that Jackass used to do to each other. And, no, that doesn’t mean that I condone kids emulating the guys on Jackass nor do I condone Jackass pranks in general. But, I do find it funny in a cringe-worthy sort of way. Starting to get off topic…
To answer your direct question: You DON’T find sarcasm in the fact that he’s showing this clip. You find sarcasm in his delivery of his commentary on the clip.
July 14, 2012 at 8:40 pm
Joy
Oh, and I was directly asking Angus why he would be angry, not the whole interwebs :P
July 14, 2012 at 8:54 pm
Angus Johnston
I actually didn’t say I’d be angry. I said I wouldn’t shrug it off.
Here’s the thing: My body is my body. I decide who touches me in an intimate way. I don’t think that’s an unfair position to take, and I don’t think it’s an unusual one.
If someone came up behind me and put his hand on my belly, I’d find it weird and creepy and presumptuous. I’d be wondering what the hell was going on, and what the next step was going to be. I’d be startled and confused and yeah, probably angry — but only once I figured out that it was some douchebag getting his jollies by trying to startle and confuse me.
I don’t get how this is confusing. You just don’t DO that. That’s the whole point of the prank, that it freaks people out. If it didn’t freak people out, it wouldn’t be funny. (And a big part of why women are the butt of it is that women tend not to be as likely to kick your ass when you violate their bodily integrity. So it’s fucking cowardly as well.)
July 15, 2012 at 12:22 am
Ryan
Oh, boo hoo, Daniel Tosh made an offensive joke because it’s part of his job. We might as well get pissed at construction workers for putting rebar in the right place. You bunch of whiny maggots.
July 15, 2012 at 3:09 pm
Mickey
@Jason “Get over it she heckled him so he cracked a joke at her. Do you really believe people would just start raping her right there.”
Actually, women have been gang raped in public places. As the woman herself said, she knew it wasn’t likely but she was nonetheless “viscerally terrified.” Because even though not likely, it could happen. It has happened.
The movie The Accused is based on a true story, a young woman who was gang raped on a pool table in a bar because the crowd started cheering for it, chanting “poke that pussy.” An American journalist was gang raped in a square teeming with people after one man said “let’s rape the American woman.” The entire crowd got in on it, beating up her cameraman and going so far as to try and stop the Egyptian army from rescuing her. Out of that entire crowd, only one man went for help, he’s the one who alerted the soldiers. And there are many less famous instances in which it has happened at frat parties etc. that I have read about. And they started because one guy said something like “hey wouldn’t it be funny if we gang raped this woman right now.”
Was a public gang rape likely? No. But it was possible. And rape is a real possibility women live in fear of every day. Statistics say one of out four women will be raped in their lifetime. And for those lucky enough to not get raped, there will have been near misses, molestations, harassments, stalkings, etc. There’s a reason why we’re afraid.
July 15, 2012 at 3:19 pm
Mickey
@Ryan You know it’s funny, I’ve read a lot of comments on the web, and the side against what Tosh did has in great majority offered reasonable and polite opinions. The people defending Tosh on the other hand have been largely saying things like “that’s why women are only good for taking a load to the face.” In this thread, for example, calling Angus, who has been polite and reasonable throughout and answered with logical opinions, a “vagina” and a “faggot.” Or calling anyone who has an opinion that disagrees with yours “whiny maggots.”
Well, I do disagree with your opinion. Why are comics the special snowflakes that don’t have to live by the same rules and regulations as the rest of us? Comics aren’t a different class of human being, they weren’t given impunity, they don’t have get out of jail free cards.
Comics have bully pulpits, and if they abuse the power that bully pulpit gives them, society will call them on it. Same goes for all the other people who have bully pulpits, politicians, journalists, priests, teachers, movie stars, etc. If they misuse their bully pulpit and cross the line, they get called on it.
If a construction worker went around threatening to rape people with a piece of rebar, he would get called on it too. There’s doing your job right, and there’s doing it wrong. Tosh was doing it wrong.
July 15, 2012 at 4:10 pm
Elyse
Going back to earlier comments – what’s militant feminism, exactly? Wanting equal rights? Wanting to be treated with respect? Wanting to not fear being raped or actually be raped? I think that’s just wanted to be treated as an equal human.
I think there’s a big difference between violence against women and violence against men. Violence against women is something that all women I know fear and take daily precautions in hopes they won’t become victims. My male friends don’t take daily precautions to prevent being assaulted. They are not scared of being assaulted when walking on the street or getting involved with a new romantic partner. It’s not that men are not victims but clearly, it doesn’t permeate their lives in the same way. Furthermore, I don’t think any jokes about any violence directed towards anyone is funny. But I think it’s unfair to accuse me of being a militant feminist when my daily life is (probably) quite different than yours and you’re unwilling to put yourself in my shoes.
One more thing… one in four women and one in sex men are raped in their lifetimes. When you tell a rape joke, you may be telling it in the presence of a rape survivor and when you do that, you trigger all sorts of horrific pain. Why is that funny?
July 15, 2012 at 4:50 pm
Joy
In spite of the assumption that I’m insensitive to women of different situations, I’d like to say one more thing.
I’ve never been in constant fear of being raped. It is not part of my daily thoughts, not even part of my thoughts in a month. I can’t really remember a time where I was in a situation where I was in fear of being raped specifically. I’ve been paranoid of being robbed when I lived in a not-so-great part of town and I took the bus/train, but don’t recall thinking “Oh, shit, that dude looks kinda rapey over there.” No, I just clutched my belongings closer and held my keys as a weapon if I got really suspicious of someone mugging me… I’m kinda sure some guys go through the same reaction when they see someone shifty. Please correct me if I’m wrong. That said, it didn’t come across every day or every week at the train station.
Back when I went to clubs, I was also not in fear. I mostly frequented gay clubs with my gay guy friends, so maybe that’s why. But even when I went to a pretty hard-core concert in a small venue, I (all 5’4″ of me) was in the mosh pit which was filled mostly with guys w/o shirts. I was more afraid of an stray elbow to the face than I was one of them grabbing my tits.
So when posters say “every woman” is in constant fear, I’m just saying don’t use broad statements like that. Please, don’t take this as me belittling the feelings of the women who actually DO live in constant fear. I’m sorry you have that as part of your daily life. It must be awful.
July 15, 2012 at 4:51 pm
Joy
@Angus, thank you for responding to my question. I was merely curious as to why we would have such opposite reactions. Once you elaborated, I see our reactions would be quite similar until the realization of what was going on. We all have different definitions on what we call intimate touching. If the gag was to grab my ass instead of place a hand on my stomach, I would get pissed. My stomach is kind of an innocuous area on my person. For you, maybe any touching more than a handshake is intimate. You say if a stranger did this to you, you’d take a stand. So, if someone you knew suddenly grew immature and did this prank to you, would you react differently?
July 15, 2012 at 7:55 pm
Missy
The bottom line is – he’s not funny. Dead babies aren’t funny. PTSD isn’t funny. Rape isn’t funny. There’s a line in comedy that you simply should not cross. “Rape” is a word that has been thrown around for the past decade as something casual. “I raped that test!” “You raped that store!” The fact is, it’s NOT casual. And the fact that the word itself can be treated this way is credible evidence toward the manifestation of the insidious rape culture in which we live.
July 15, 2012 at 10:01 pm
Joy
“You raped that store”? what in the hell is that supposed to mean?? Did he find a vent pipe and force his dick in it? I’m so glad I’ve never heard someone use the word rape like that. It makes a point that I’ve stood behind elsewhere. The proper use of the English language is declining very quickly. People are getting dumber by the moment.
July 16, 2012 at 10:28 am
nael
Many guys seem to think that it’s not a big deal if an unknown man touches a woman’s stomach with no permission. Well, then, imagine if a stranger with a camera approached your mother, sister or girlfriend and did that to her – would you feel that it is appropriate?
In any event, it is really childish to make your male audience go about touching other women. How old is Tosh? As if he ran out of ideas how to be funny on TV and decided to run a joke that would be mildly amusing to pre-puberty students, perhaps. Tosh is just stupid and unoriginal, and very insecure.
July 16, 2012 at 12:07 pm
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July 16, 2012 at 2:00 pm
Phil
If I was the woman I’d be pretty scared and creeped out too. In fact I would still be scared and creeped out NOW, sometime after, I think. Y’know – there are some sick people out there – men and women – and people who really crave the limelight. Connect the dots on what that means.
She shouldn’t have heckled him – she should have just left the show and not tried to make it awkward and ruin it for everyone else. But I think a permanent target on her back for AT LEAST the immediate future is a little harsh for her making it awkward.
Turning the comedy routine around on hecklers is a long-time tradition, but I think you have to have an idea of when that’s appropriate – he could have MORE funnily said something else that wasn’t as threatening and scary.
“You’re raping my vibe right now.”, “You can go rape the door (exit).”
Much less edgy, maybe sort of lame, but folks would’ve laughed if anything because the awkwardness would be lifted and maybe thought “that was a good rebuttal” and we could all go on w/ our lives without writing multi-paragraph comments on this article.
July 16, 2012 at 3:05 pm
Joy
Phil, that’s probably the best, non-polarizing comment I’ve read on the incident. Commendations to you sir.
July 17, 2012 at 1:40 am
Jonah
@holdyourevil I have watched all episodes of Tosh.0 can you please tell me in which episode did he use an actual rape of a teenage boy.
July 17, 2012 at 11:27 am
stephanie
I was rapped when i was 15, it was terrible and i struggle with it everyday, but guess what Tosh is funny! I laugh at his rape jokes often. Everyone just needs to stop being so sensitive! If you dont like his style dont go to his shows and certainly do not try and heckle..jeez!
July 17, 2012 at 4:39 pm
Jonah
ANGUS! have you seen this article, the subject is racism, but the argument can be the same for both these subjects.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/football/blog/2012/jul/14/john-terry-sarcasm-defence?CMP=twt_gu
July 17, 2012 at 4:53 pm
Jonah
@Stephanie See you find humor in it, what I have noticed is that most of those defending and “prosecuting” Tosh have never experienced rape, not everyone reacts the same, but it seems that all those against Tosh think that all victims find offense.
As a boy I was molested, when people make jokes about it I genuinely laugh, why someone may ask, well because if I get extremely upset about it i’m letting one dark point in time ruin my whole life. I don’t want to be going to a shrink, my “therapy” is laughing and humor. If I keep thinking about it I feel that I am “malingering” so that people don’t expect me to do much work because of the pain I went through. Don’t get me wrong, Initial support is great for those people, but if we keep babying victims I feel that we are weakening them, handing everything to them, not exactly helping them become stronger.
Also guess what, my aunt was raped, my other aunt was molested, unfortunately her three daughters were also molested, and as you now know I was molested, yet we all genuinely laugh when it comes to these jokes. Sometimes I completely forget that moment, you may call it a repressed memory, but guess what I am living a “normal” life.
July 17, 2012 at 5:36 pm
rc
Touching belly fat is not rape. And when someone interupts your show they deserve to be shut down as quickly as possible.
Anyone who sys tosh was wrong has never been into a comedy club. Get over yourself and worry about ACTUAL problems.
July 17, 2012 at 9:18 pm
b-psycho
A lot of the humor behind his TV show is people being really, really stupid. I’d have to say groping a woman because a comedian said he’d play footage of it if you did qualifies. A reasonable person would either explain the concept to a woman and have her clearly in on it if willing, or *not do it at all*.
July 18, 2012 at 3:50 am
Jonah
Okay, people how can Dez Bryant(Dallas Cowboys) only be a twitter trend for an hour, after it is made known he assaulted his MOTHER because she kicked him out of her house, but Tosh trends for 3 days for his incident? Who is more of an influence on youth? I don’t hear a cry about assault culture.
July 18, 2012 at 3:54 am
Jonah
Oh by the way some people on Twitter ended up saying things like “I’m about to go Dez Bryant on my mom.” Where is the outcry about those jokes. “His mother is a crack whore she deserved it.” Instigating “assault culture” yet I don’t see any hoopla.
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August 14, 2012 at 6:18 am
mat
anyone who is offended by anything a comedian says is either, or all of the following. 1.stupid, 2.incapable of understanding that different people have different tastes in comedy (among almost everything in life), and finally, 3.those that should be fucking raped by knife. use your head fellow humans, to each his own. daniel tosh is not a rapist nor a encouraging or supporting rape, he simply knows how to get under your vulnerable skin. as far as dan and i are concerned that’s what’s funny, not rape
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August 31, 2012 at 2:14 am
Ashley
Lol, people are so sensitive now. I’m a woman and I thought it was hilarious
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October 16, 2012 at 7:05 pm
t wrecks
wow. this article is pathetic. the fact that you took the time to right it is pathetic. the fact that this is an issue at all is pathetic. If you dont like his comedy, dont watch it and ignore it. I know that concept will hurt your tiny brain but it is possible.
October 28, 2012 at 6:24 pm
smokin420
Fags, it comedy. If you can’t appreciate it, don’t watch it. Oh yeah, and shut the fuck up. I agree, this article is pathetic. Somebody need to kick Anus Johnson in his cunt
May 30, 2014 at 3:54 am
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